A process is another way of saying “a way of doing something”.
Having a process means that when you are on the wave of upset, disturbance, irritation, anger, abandonment, injustice or intoxication, you have a way to de-escalate without negating the value of your feeling.
You have to tell the truth, but you also have to be loving…with yourself.
You create a process in steps. Step one for me starts with the breath. You absolutely cannot have a loving, truthful conversation with yourself if you’re not clear. And there is no clarity without spiritual connection. You can’t solve a problem without love and spirit.
When you do Effiji Breathwork, it creates a bridge between body and soul.
You need your higher self to talk to you. Unfortunately, most people don’t have that voice inside. Effiji breathwork helps you to create that connection. How do I know? Because that’s what it did for me.
Processing is different than a process. Processing isn’t the way we do it, it’s what you can do some of the time. It’s an active conversation about what’s going on. Processing can be done with others or yourself.
Processing with a conscious person, a therapist, Sarah and I after the breath, or even with yourself after the breath, is a sacred space where the conversation leads to a truth. These are truths that will remain even as events and feelings change. It’s a point of stability in your inner life.
I have a basic rule which is to only process with people I trust. It’s not about how smart someone is, it’s about how much they can listen without a filter, especially when they are triggered by what I am saying. (Don’t we all know about people who listen with a filter!!!)
If you have a disagreement with someone, processing will only be useful if that person has demonstrated that they can listen. If someone has proven to you that they are not able to listen without filtering and projecting, then you are making a mistake sharing vulnerable parts of yourself.
I have learned over the years that, if I am upset with someone because I don’t feel they are listening, to continue to talk just confuses my ability to hear and trust my higher self. I will just let a relationship go and never explain myself again.
This approach might not be for everyone, but there is something miraculous that happens when you do a lot of Effiji Breathwork. Sarah and I were just talking about it.
It’s that you begin to trust your inner voice and it doesn’t leave you when youre in difficult conversations and even when you’re in pain or confusion.
I used to hate the breath. I had so much resistance. When I learned to really go into the resistance, I realized I could tolerate everything from freezing cold showers to facing loss.
Effiji is powerful this way because, when you commit 100% of yourself to each and every breath, you will lose the ability to fear inner things.
When that happens, you don’t need to be loved or understood because you’ve done that for yourself.
If that sounds like something you want to do, then reserve your spot for the next Effiji Breath session and come with us on the journey.
